My take on the “Male Loneliness Epidemic”

First off, this is not the kind of post where I'm gonna start quoting statistics or anything. I'm just gonna give my take on it.

I know this is a topic that makes people tense, but I want to share what it’s like living inside it. I don't hate anyone. I'm not homophobic, transphobic, racist or any of those things.

Historically speaking, white men have done a lot of terrible things. Other races may have as well, but that's not the point here. Many of the worst atrocities throughout history were committed by white men.

Right out the gate, society has a bias. White men are just one of many demographics, but because of history, people assume the worst.

I have no friends my age. I've never had a girlfriend. I try to make friends, try to go outside.
Sometimes it feels like the moment I walk into a room, I have to prove I’m not the bad guy just for existing.

The whole argument that "white men are terrible," and "there's no loneliness epidemic, just touch grass. Make friends," only makes doing so even harder.

I'm alone. And it hurts. Am I a dick? I don't think so. I'm not gonna get into politics, but I think I'm pretty liberal.

Problem is, no one will ever get to know me because I'm never given the chance.

I said I wouldn't start quoting statistics, but there's one thing I do want to bring up: suicide rates. Apparently (don't quote me on this) white men are more likely to end their lives than most other demographics. I'll admit I've been hospitalized before for ideations.

It hurts to be me, and I feel like nobody has my back. And I know I'm not the only one. There are plenty of others who feel the same way. It's why so many people are drawn to scumbags like Andrew Tate. He speaks to them. He points the finger and says "all your problems are their fault."
Does that mean he's right? Absolutely not. Dude's wrong about everything.

But one thing is certain. He's given many white men a purpose. Even if that purpose means fitting the stereotype we're all seen as.

If you're in my demographic and are considering following someone like him, or even someone just adjacent. Please, don't. It's just going to make things worse in the long run. We all suffer from that.

That said, I understand there's worse things going on in the world right now than lonely men. That doesn’t mean we’re not hurting too. Everyone is struggling. Some worse than others, but everyone has it rough right now.

If you’re reading this and feeling the same way, you’re not alone. I see you.